I know this is such a stupid thing to complain about. Oh no my dog has too much love – how terrible(!)/s. But it’s triggering me (I have BPD) and I also feel so down about it – am I doing something wrong? My dad thinks I may be “too much” for my dog and my parents constantly joke about my dog preferring my dad.

A little back story: this dog wasn’t always mine, it was my grandads guard dog back home in Romania he lived outside. He’s such a sweet boy and was a terrible guard dog just barked but was friendly as soon as you came in. My grandad passed away and we couldn’t bear to see him go somewhere else where he may be mistreated so took him all the way to the UK. I still live with my parents as I’m saving to buy a house.

As soon as he came to us my dad noticed he really helps my mental health – I went from rotting in bed to out all the time, I take him everywhere I go, we go to the park almost every day, through the woods the rest of the time, I’ve taken him to the beach to indoor dog parks everywhere. I feed him and brush him and I do all the things for him. My dad said he helps you, he’s your dog, please look after him but he can go when you move out.

Now in the 7 years he’s been around my dad HAS seen Bruno more he used to visit my grandad every two months and I was more so every two years – so it could just be that he’s more familiar but as soon as I open my door he runs to sit with my dad, he always wants to be around him and I just don’t know if I’ll ever be his owner or his number one to him.

Is it because he’s in my room all the time? My dad said to keep him in there during the day as he’s working and he’s a big dog that could get into things that’s why we hang out outside all the time. Or is it that he sees me more so my dads a novelty? Or does he just not love me as much? He seems so happy when I come back from being out or he wags his tail when I come back from the bathroom and he does seem to love me. I just worry not as much. What advice could you give me?